~Caught me thinking~

"All the world's a stage,
and all the men and women merely players:
they have their exits and their entrances;
and one man in his time plays many parts..."

William Shakespeare

Remember my post about pretender?

Today Mr.Lawson gave me an insight of what socialogists do.

Socialogists are people who analyse the social structure of a country,

On the macro-level,the role of education,healthcare,politics etc.

And they have to look at things by its "function and conflict".

Meaning a function socialogists will give his opinions about what a certain role a thing plays within the society.Namely citing the function.A conflict socialogists will give a whole new different perspective of the topic debated.For example Marriage.

"Why Marry?What is marriage?"

The Japanese and I gave answers like to keep the population and produce the next generation,blah blah blah crappy,shallow answers.But no,you could do that without marriage,Mr.Lawson said.*grinning

A function socialogist would say:Marriage is a bond to keep two person together,with sound mind,in order to be able to raise children well..Without it,no one would one to be responsible for the child he fathered etc.

A conflict socialogists would say:Marriage is a way to keep a man dominant.With marriage,man can show who's in power,who controls the family,society etc.

But of course,this is all spoken in general terms.Times are changing,women can be dominant too nowadays,he said.But that's not the point,point is,everyone has a role to play.Like a function socialogist and a conflict socialogists have a total different ways of thinking regarding one issue,they are just providing their opinions as their role requires them to do so.

And so do all of us.We tend to behave differently with almost everyone we know.And who taught us to do that?Who taught us how to behave well in the society,what is the norm;what...are the rules?Every country has a different norm and rules,which is why it crosscultural experience is difficult.

Because every country has a different 'director' therefore,we have a different role to play.Thus,to make a good 'performance' and to help the 'perforemer' pull out a great 'performance',citing an example:you pretend not to notice when the teacher accidently lost his footing but listen on to his lecture etc.We as 'audience' have to play our role well as a student and help to make the 'performance' a success.

When I wrote Pretender,I got some negative feedbacks.Why is that so,I wonder?Do you not agree that you are pretending all this while?Not saying that one is a fake,but I call this an 'adaption' to people around us,to the society...You cannot say you have one main characteristic,which really defines you as a whole because that is not possible.Try using one word to describe yourself.I would say it's all part of 'pretending' and you are just playing a role whenever,whichever the situation requires you to do so..

My point being?Try and stop telling people what is right and what is wrong,for there is no definition of the real right or wrong.We have been 'brainwashed' to accept what is acceptable and what is not,because the society requires us to do so in order to keep away conflicts and to maintain a balance as a whole.And no one,ever,has the right to call another a fake...

Because they are just who they are,playing their role...